Baggages You Should Lose Before Marriage

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Alt. Text: A couple’s intertwined pinkies with the woman’s hand wearing an engagement ring.

“It takes two to tango” — this famous statement can never go out of context especially when it comes to love, relationships and marriage. Why? Because marriage needs both people to practice and work together to allow it to last and make it healthy. However, before establishing this, you need to make sure that you also have to establish good rapport within yourself before you start to commit. You need to let go of those things you keep within yourself—things that may threaten or ruin your marriage. This means that there are some baggages you need to lose before you get married and here are some of them:

 

  • Close-mindedness

 

In marriage, it doesn’t matter who is right or wrong. You need to know that it matters on who gives weight on the opinion of the other person. Carrying this baggage as you enter the married life can be a disaster. Not considering your partner’s opinion would mean that you are belittling your partner or that you do not respect them at all. It could also mean that you are not open to changes within the relationship when, in fact, it is essential for both of you to grow. For instance, when you get to marry a foreign bride, close-mindedness must be tossed outside the window as cultural differences and behavioral variations are highly-anticipated in such union. Hence, if you plan on tying the knot soon, it is empirical that you leave this baggage prior to your flight.

 

  • Selfishness

 

When you get to tie the knot with an Asian woman for instance, you will soon realize that your future family is given much priority and value. Marriage means great sacrifices for the sake of your family and you will not be able to do this if you always think of yourself first than that of the welfare of your spouse and children; thus, as early as now, you must get this out of your baggage before boarding the plane of marriage.

 

  • Egocentrism

 

Egocentrism is somehow similar, yet contextually different from selfishness. If selfishness means thinking of yourself first regardless of the pressing needs of others, egocentrism is the inability to see other’s perspectives than that of one’s self. Here, you become too self-focused that you cannot view yourself as part of other people’s world; instead, you tend to view people as part of your world. This is a big no for most ladies most especially for Latin women who strongly uphold open communication bonds with their partners. This baggage is very detrimental for your marriage if not left out since this means that you cannot see your partner’s needs—that can be too exhausting and painful for your spouse.

 

  • Possessiveness

 

Rather than being possessive who tries to control or dominate your spouse, be someone who is territorial. Being territorial means trying to keep and protect your loved ones. This allows your partner to grow in her own space and be better along with the course of your relationship. As you see, being possessive can make your partner feel choked and imprisoned. Due to this, they strive more of freedom and try to get out from your grasp which may result to infidelity.

 

  • Personal Desires

 

If you are planning to tie the knot, you must also be ready to give up on your own personal desires because you do not only work hard for yourself but for your partner as well. There is no more “yours” or “mine” because there only exists “us” when it comes to goals. Why? Because the achievement of the other is also your achievement. Establishing this kind of mindset would require you to have common goals in the relationship. Imagine yourself years from now and both of you should work hard on realizing that.

 

  • Believing that sexual intercourse will always be fantastic.

 

Sex is definitely one of the things that couples look forward to upon tying the knot. Most imagine it to be enjoyable and fantastic, but let us face it: every relationship gets boring and that includes sex. Removing this mindset, there will be less disappointment on how things would turn out to be on this aspect. However, it is always up to the couple how they can warm and spice things up in their relationship to make it more exciting than it was in the first time.

What couples need to remember is that marriage is not just like tango that when you get tired, you just stop, or, like gum that when it loses its flavor and turns plain, you just spit it out. Marriage is a sacred union between a man and a woman; it is a lifetime commitment where certain sacrifices are made and where certain things are reconsidered in order to keep the relationship going. Now, if you are trying to get on board to a lifetime flight of marriage carrying the baggages mentioned above, your plane will crash and it will not just hurt you and your partner individually; it will also hurt the people around you and may ruin the relationship you’re keeping.

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7 Dishes You Must Try in Davao

When you visit a foreign place, few of the things that would probably excite you is visiting its famous destinations and meeting new people. In Davao, you can have lots of it. You can meet hospitable Filipino women and enjoy its cuisine at the same time. However, it is the food that completes your travel. In Davao City, there is technically no difference. Having a taste with its local food will assuredly make you feel like sitting on cloud nine. Prepare your taste buds as you will be introduced to some of Davao’s foodies!

 

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This food is available just anywhere in the country since it is considered as a traditional breakfast set. Suman is a Filipino rice cake made from glutinous rice and is cooked in coconut milk and sugar. It is wrapped in banana leaves, steamed then served. On the other hand, ‘tsokolate’ is also a popular drink in the Philippines; it is made from a local sort of cacao called tablea. One of the best places to have it in Davao is at Seagull Mountain Resort in Buda Road. However, if you want to have it just in a city proper, drop by Habi at Kape in Abreeza Mall.

 

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If you are not adventurous enough to taste a fresh pulp of durian fruit, this durian cheesecake is highly-recommended, especially for visitors. It is soft— it feels like you’re eating tofu. Durian cheesecake admiringly captures every visitor’s taste buds. It is also served with green tea cheesecake and sans rival which are also good. The best place to have this dessert is at Lachi’s Restaurant in Marfori Heights, Davao City.

 

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In order for local and foreign tourists to have a complete Davao experience, Davaoeños have brought the coffee lifestyle back into something that will always be sought-after by many people. And that is giving plain coffee a twist for a new taste. If you are a coffee-person, try this special coffee and never be hesitant to have some more. You can grab Durian coffee at Davao’s Famous Blugré Coffee.

 

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Countless people would say that Davao City has the best siomai ever. Due to its great-taste yet extremely affordable price, it is indeed a must-try. You can have this at any siomai restaurant in Davao. It may be in Siomai Size Is Back, Caitlyn’s Dumpling Bar, Piggies Siomai and Refreshments and many more. With each bite, you will surely want to have more. Davao’s siomai is exquisitely tasty. Don’t forget to have a taste of it.

 

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This dish in Davao, seafood-in-a-bag is not unique anymore since it is available anywhere in the country. However, Davao has made its own tweak for a special version of this dish— that will surely satisfy your palate! If you want to know how Davaoeños manage to make seafood-in-a-bag known, grab this delicious food at Blue Post Boiling Crabs and Shrimps in Lanang when you pay a visit in the city.

 

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Pakfry is a famous food in Davao city which is derived from the words ‘paksiw’ and ‘fry’. As the name itself suggests, this drooling food goes through two processes in cooking. The first step is to cook the fish with vinegar and spices and then deep fry it to have a crispy texture. Pakfry is actually made from a tuna tail, which is very abundant in Mindanao, Philippines. You can find this unique Davao dish at Palovince Restaurant in Dakudao Avenue, Davao city. When you come to visit Davao don’t forget to have a taste with this food.

 

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Kalderobo is a davao dish which is derived from ‘kalderetang abodo’. It is a beef stew with a twist. This appetizing dish is one of the Rekado’s signature dishs. They are the ones who introduced the dish. Numerous travelers in Davao City seek for this dish because of its tender and tasty meat—the kind that will surely make you want to have more. Have a taste of this Kalderobo at Rekado Filipino Comfort Cuisine which is located at 1050 Jacinto Extension, Davao City.

Loving these famous food in Davao is just an understatement! When you get to visit Davao for the upcoming tour, do not just end with meeting beautiful women there. Go for exploring by filling your mouth with various delectacle, must-try dishes in Davao.

Do you wanna date a foreign chick?

 

Have you ever considered yourself dating someone who has a different culture? A foreign woman to be exact.

Meeting and attracting foreign ladies is not as easy as 1, 2, 3 and A, B, C’s. You need to keep in mind that you should always be patient because the approach that you’re used to may not be as effective as before…

Where do I meet these women?


TRAVEL!

The good thing about traveling is that you will gain new experiences and wonderful opportunities and make unforgettable memories. The best part about traveling is MEETING FOREIGN WOMEN and learning about their culture at the same time. When you travel, make sure you live in an area where there’s a night life, fun activities, and ofcourse a good restaurant. This will make it easier for you to meet the woman of your dreams.


ONLINE DATING, LET’S NOT FORGET ABOUT THAT!

There are a lot of dating apps and dating sites wherein you can meet beautiful foreign ladies. These ladies are also looking for the right one, just like you! This is the best and most convenient way to meet cool women in different countries. You just have to create your profile and find your match. A dating site that I’d recommend is Foreign-Affair. It has helped countless of men find the girl of their dreams and most of these men are now happily married. Now, isn’t that amazing?


What should I do?


Before dating these women it’s nice to learn basic phrases in their language. This will give them a good impression about you and will give you an edge. What’s more attractive than a man who made an effort learning the language, right? You also need to learn about their culture and adjust. This is really important because your practices may not be acceptable for them. This will also show that you respect the girl and their culture as well and never forget, BE A GENTLEMAN. Despite what women believe in and despite their culture and language differences, all women want to date a guy who is respectful and has principles.

Would you fight for it?

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If it’s worth it. Fight for it.

 

People often say there’s no such thing as forever. Couples break-up and people give up. But love actually lasts if you make it last. It depends on how a person handles a relationship.

 

DON’T BE SELFISH

When you’re in a relationship, you always have to meet halfway with your partner. Learn how to give and take. Keep in mind that it’s a two-way process. You know what they say, it takes two to tango. In other words, think about your partner too.

 

BE CONSISTENT

The problem with some people, they stop doing the things to get them once they have them. Just because you’ve been together for a long time, doesn’t mean you’ll stop doing the things you did before. BE CONSISTENT! Open the door for her, make your partner smile and take your partner on a date.

 

DO SOMETHING SPECIAL

Show him you love him/her by doing something special once in a while. Cook for your partner, ask how his/her day went. Remind your partner everyday that you love him/her

 

BE OPEN

Honesty should always be present in a relationship. Tell him/her why you’re mad. Tell him/her if you’re pissed off. Being open will also help you know each other more.

 

LEARN TO SAY SORRY

Don’t let your pride take over. Say sorry IF IT’S YOUR FAULT. Talk things over and don’t go to sleep mad at each other.

 

LEARN TO LISTEN

Listen to what your partner has to say. Learn to listen to each other’s side of the story and try to understand and prevent miscommunication.

 

Lastly, what it takes to get someone is EFFORT and what it takes to keep someone is EFFORT.

 

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Relationships don’t have to end if both of you will try